I am a great devotee of Lord Krishna and when I was tired of looking for a competent Guru for me, I adopted him as my Kul-Guru (The Teacher for entire Family).
I am a dedicated follower of his one teaching only- what you sow, so will you Reap. Your future will depend upon the choice you make today, and your present is the result of what choice you made in past.
In modern management system, the world has accepted this teaching but in their own fashion. Different people have described it in different ways; but the one very close to my heart is the formula, which I learn from Dr. Robert Resnick, a psychotherapist in Los Angeles. And the formula is: E+R=O (Event + Response = Outcome).
The basic idea is that every outcome we experience in life; whether it is success or failure, wealth or poverty, health or illness, intimacy or estrangement, joy or frustration; is the result of how we have responded to an earlier event or events in our life.
If we don’t like the outcomes we are currently getting, there are two basic choices we can make.
- We can blame the event (E) for our lack of results (0).
- We can instead simply change our responses (R) to the events (E)-the way things are-until we get the outcomes (0) we want.
I want to give a real-life example from my own life to establish the worth of this idea. This example will also take you through the darkest street of the journey of my life.
In 2007, me and one of my best friend decided to start our own businesses. We collected our all savings and invested about INR 5-5 Millions each in the business of our individual choice. In First year, my business was slow but his business went well and he made INR 2.5 Millions that year. He suggested me to join his business, but I refused. Next 2 years, in 2008 and 2009 there was worldwide recession; that affected our businesses badly, but I was still able to survive somehow but my friend lost all his money and he started taking loans from banks and friends and continued investing in share market. I was thinking to wind up the business immediately but people around me kept encouraging me and funded me to carry on my activities, but how long??
I was out of money soon and realised that apart from my initial investment, I have created a liability of INR 2.5 Millions, means my loss reached to a total of INR 7.5 Millions. On the other hand, my friend was in worse situation, he had lost all is 7.5 Millions and had created another liabilities of INR 5.0 Millions.
Soon the debtors made our life worst. I immediately decided to increase any more liabilities and winded up the business. I started to plan how to get out of this situaton.However, my friend did not have patience to face the debtors. He was so disappointed and frustrated that one night he committed suicide. This event affected me badly and for one moment I also started thinking like him, but suddenly I recalled the teaching of my Guru and chose not to follow my friend.
I analysed the reasons of failure and came to know that my decision about starting business in that specific city was wrong, hence, no one else but I am responsible for the outcome. Then I was able to respond in a different way to this event and I sold my house which was not parental one. Repaid all debts and shifted to Qatar to start from zero again. Today, I have my own house again and helping my friend’s family as well.
I frequently think, what if I would also have responded to that event in other way?? I am sure, my family would have suffered a lot and they could never forgive me for my mistakes and wrong decisions. But today they are all proud of me and I am also very happy and contented.
In our life and lives of people we know, we can find many such examples that teach us – the way you respond to the event, the outcome would be according.
Never ever put the blame of your failure or credit of your success to the circumstances, people, government or economy. Take 100% responsibility of your life and always remember that “IF YOU DON’T LIKE YOUR OUTCOMES, CHANGE YOUR RESPONSES to the EVENTS Take place around you.”
So, friends, start making right choice today to create a happy tomorrow!! Respond wisely to every event so the outcome can be the best.