A man is literally what he thinks. –JAMES ALLEN (Author of As a Man Thinketh)
Research indicates that, on average, people talk to themselves about 50,000 times a day. This includes you, me and everyone. Unfortunately, most of that self-talk is I about yourself, and according to the psychological researchers, it is 80% negative-things such as I shouldn’t have said that. . . . They don’t like me. . . I’m never going to be able to pull this . . . . I don’t like the way my hair looks . That other team is going to kill us. . . . I can’t dance. . . . I’m not a speaker. . . . I ’ll never lose this weight. . . . I can’t ever seem to get organized. . . . I’m always late.
I have read somewhere that “Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’re yours.” How true is that..!
We also know from this research that these thoughts have a powerful effect on us. They affect our attitude, our motivation to act, our physiology, even our biochemistry. Our negative thoughts actually control our behavior. They make us stutter, spill things, forget our lines, break out in a sweat, breathe shallowly, feel anxious or scared-and taken to the extreme, they can even paralyze or kill us.
We also know from polygraph (lie-detector) tests that your body reacts to your thoughts — changing your temperature, heart rate, blood pressure, breathing rate, muscle tension, and how much your hands sweat. When you are hooked up to a lie detector and are asked a question such as “Did you take the money?” your hands will get colder, your heart will beat faster, your blood pressure will go up, your breathing will get faster, your muscles will get tighter, and your hands will sweat if you did take the money and you lie about it. These kinds of physiological changes occur not only when You are lying but also in reaction to every thought you think. Every cell in your body is affected by every thought you have. Negative thoughts affect your body negatively-weakening you, making you sweat, and making you uptight. Positive thoughts affect your body in a positive way, making you more relaxed, centered, and alert. Positive thoughts cause the secretion of endorphins in the brain and reduce pain and increase pleasure.
Psychiatrist Daniel G. Amen has named the limiting thoughts we hear in our head ANTs-(Automatic Negative Thoughts). And just like real ants at a picnic, your ANTs can ruin your experience of life. Dr. Amen recommends that you learn to stomp the ANTs. First you have to become aware of them; next you have to shake them off and stomp them by challenging them. Finally, you have to replace them with more positive and affirming thoughts.
Don’t believe everything you hear-even in your own mind.
The key to dealing with any kind of negative thinking is to realize that you are ultimately in charge of whether to listen to or agree with any thought. Just because you think it–or hear it—doesn’t mean it’s true.
You need to constantly ask yourself, if this thought helping me or hurting me? Is it getting me closer to where I want to go, or taking me further away? If it motivating me to action, or is it blocking me with fear and self-doubt? You have to learn to challenge and talk back to the thoughts that are not serving you in creating greater success and happiness. For that you will have to convert your inner critic into your Coach…a coach who can guide your life to move on towards success, not to hold you where you are !